How to Grieve Like a Man
Our culture often puts pressure on men to bottle up their emotions and take suffering “like a man”. While it’s true that men grieve differently than women, here are a few things to keep in mind:
You are called to lead in your grief.
In your grief, don’t forget that you are a leader at home. If you shut down, the family shuts down. If you break, the family breaks. Jesus is the ultimate head of your home, but you are next in line. Keep your calling in mind as you process your grief.
Don’t be afraid to ask for prayer.
Godly men need God. Admit this fact in your time of grief. Invite others to pray for you and your family as you grieve. Be specific. Leadership is about taking initiative. People around you will want to know how to help. So invite them to pray for you and your family.
Galatians 6:2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.
Surround yourself with positive people.
Grief can throw even great men into despair. Fight it. Be proactive about putting yourself around encouragers. Avoid the temptation to go down the dark hole with toxic people. Seek out a pastor or godly friends. Ask them to help you process your grief and stay in a healthy place.
Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who
love God and are called according to his purpose for them.